I was invited to a 50th wedding anniversary recently and it was fantastic to celebrate with the happy couple. My husband and I know the couple very well and have seen first hand how they adore and respect each other. My parents celebrated 50 years together in 2012; my siblings and I held a family reunion at a hotel in Ocho Rios, Jamaica to celebrate. We had a grand time and it was the perfect option to have the celebration in Jamaica.
In a time when 42- 45 % of marriages in North America end in divorce it makes sense to celebrate these milestones. Why do some marriages work and others fail? I don’t have the answer however that is not the message I want to talk about in this post. I believe when you get to twenty five and fifty years of marriage it is definitely a cause for celebration and marking the event in a meaningful way to you. Some people opt for a party with family and friends while others prefer to to spend time together at dinner or on well deserved vacation.
You many wonder why all this reflection after attending an anniversary party, well.. my twenty fifth anniversary is coming up in two months and I have no plans to mark the occasion. I also know my husband very well and trust me, there are no surprises in store for me. We have been together for over 30 years and not once has he pulled off a surprise! I have no recollection how we celebrated our tenth anniversary. With two young kids under the age of eight we were barely getting enough sleep, working, chauffeuring kids to and from school activities not to mention cleaning and laundry. Our anniversary came and went with no fanfare. As the kids got older we felt ready to tackle a couples vacation and planned a trip to Las Vegas for our fifteenth anniversary. It was the first time my husband and I took a vacation without the kids. We had a grand time at Cirque du Soleil, the Grand Canyon, Bellagio fountain, magic shows and walking the Vegas strip. Our anniversary dinner was at the Bellagio hotel where my husband used his charm to get us a window seat where we watched the fountain show during our meal.
For our twentieth anniversary both kids graduated on the same day from two different schools at separate locations! The day was spent in a tizzy putting on graduation gowns and racing to school auditoriums in a torrential June downpour. That night we bought a cake at the supermarket because we were too tired to do anything more, all our efforts went into giving the kids memorable middle and high school graduations. It was worth it to see the kids all happy and excited for graduation, I would not have had it any other way.
I was determined to have a great story for our twenty fifth year of marriage. I had dreams of visiting Paris, France , touring the Eiffel Tower, getting acquainted with the Mona Lisa at the Louvre and top it all off with a romantic sunset cruise on the Seine. My dream was vivid with the sights and smell of the city – enjoying a warm croissant with cafe au lait for breakfast and drinking way too much wine for my own good on a warm early summer day. But alas that was not to be! Things change and that perfect twenty fifth anniversary vacation will not happen in Paris on June 25th as I planned in my dreams. My husband has a new business, vacations to Paris is not the agenda this year. I have faith that the Paris trip will happen very soon and I will dedicate a blog or two to talk about that vacation.
It does not matter if we are in Paris, France or Ontario, Canada for our anniversary, all that matters is that we commemorate our love and devotion to each other together. The new plan is to take a weekend road trip to Quebec City, not quite Paris but quite lovely in June. We plan sip wine at a side walk cafe on June 25th to celebrate 25 years of wonderful wedded bliss. Walk good.